Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Painful Control

I love the old movie "Broadcast News."

Holly Hunter plays a super smart news producer. She is talented and successful, yet she's lonely and isolated.

Holly's character, Jane, can't let go. She is always in control. She always has to take the lead and conduct her circumstances.

It's actually painful to watch. She is so controlled that she can't relax and enjoy any part of her life (except work). Years ago, I was alot like Jane.

Her approach works OK in her work life, but she can't let go, even when she wants to get close to people in her personal life.

One of the funny lines that Jane says is, "I'm now repelling people I'm trying to seduce!"

Controlling everything is impossible. Trying to control others is futile. Living your life feeling like you MUST be in control is painful. It doesn't work and it's going to create a lot of unpleasantness.

Learning to relax and let go is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves and the people we care about.

Do yourself (and those around you) a favor... and let go of the need to control.